For many it’s the first few weeks of school, and yet here we are…already hearing the news of another senseless school shooting.

When are we going to acknowledge the elephant in the room?!

Every single school shooter is MALE.

For long enough our society has allowed “boys to be boys” and has treated Boys and Men with kid gloves for lashing out in rage (and even congratulating them for being tough). Often NEVER holding them accountable for their actions and allowing them to act like everything is fine after an outburst so they “don’t have to deal with it”.

We also have an entire generation of boys who’s parents truly believe they are perfect “NoT My SoN” and look around at everyone else when there’s a conflict or situation, often times because of maternal emeshment because they aren’t recieving fulfillment from their husbands and treat their sons as an emotional crutch.

It’s statistically shown that girls and women suffer from more mental illlness and are more likely to experience bullying in high school from their peers …so why aren’t girls doing this?!

Oh YES, because society forces girls to learn empathy from a very young age to appease the boys and men they are around to make them more palatable to be around, and to deal with the their emotions (or stuff them down) because one day their job will be to manage a Husband and Children’s emotions.

I think it’s time that we break generational curses surrounding male anger and emotional response and truly teach boys (and men) to handle their anger and disappointment in a healthy way and that conflict resolution and handling disappointment isn’t a feminine trait.

*note I know this is something many mothers are working to teach their boys, myself included…but until the adult men in their life can model healthy conflict resolution, the teachings often aren’t able to stick.

Don’t agree?! Check the statistics.